My bad for comin’ in so hot with seemingly negative vibes, but that saying has never sat well with me. “no bad days”? really?
No bad days is not real. Bad days are a part of life. It’s not about hoping for no bad days, rather setting yourself up during allllll the good days to punch those bad days right in the gut. Life is going to throw you curve balls. Frustration. Sadness. Anger. Self Doubt. Irritation. Those are all NORMAL feelings.
I’ve realized that what I do on the good days, & recognizing that those negative feelings are normal, helps me get through the down days.
Here, I share some of my daily habits and “panic mode” go-to’s when I feel myself falling into the sinkhole a bad day can bring.
Meditation: I’ve talked about this before, but meditation is a huge part of my life. Meditation isn’t always about sitting in silence, breathing. Sometimes it’s getting lost in the beat at Tandem, or walking on the beach with no phone, no music, just my breath. Find time to let yourself be present in the moment. Remind yourself it’s okay to just be in this exact moment, with your breath. No email. No phone. Just you. & your breath. On the bad days, take a breathe, embrace the present moment as whatever it is, and remind yourself of one of my favorite sayings: “Not to spoil the ending, but everything is going to be okay”.
Breathe: Never underestimate the power of a DEEP BREATH. In through the nose for count of 7, hold for a count of 7, exhale for a count of 7. Repeat.
Perspective: Remembering that bad days are a part of life, and a part of what make the good days soooo good are both a huge help for me when I find myself slipping into the bad day vibrations. I also find a sense of solace in knowing that those feelings are normal. Everyone feels them. It’s a part of growing, learning, and LIVING. Taking a moment to (you guessed it) breathe, and realize it is a bad day, a bad moment, NOT a bad life, will help you find a positive sense of calm, even on the darkest days.
Breathe: Seriously. In through the nose, out through the mouth.
Apologize: Falling in love made me realize the power of an apology, and how incredibly bad at admitting my faults, and apologizing I really was. Holding onto anger, frustration, or irritation only hurts you. People are going to frustrate you, let you down, disagree with something you may feel super passionately about, and ALL OF THAT IS OKAY. It’s a part of life, and a part of what makes relationships (not just lovers, but friends, family, coworkers, you name it) so incredibly beautiful. Lose your pride, let go of the fight, and say you’re sorry. You will feel better. every. single. time. I promise. Want more on the power of an apology? Check out the book, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and It’s All Small Stuff” – this book gave me a ton of helpful nuggets to take on daily frustrations.
Tense, Release & – SO WEIRD, I KNOW – Breathe: This is one of my go to traffic jam, running late, dog pooped in his crate, I think it is in my hair….stop the madness… tactics. Sit up straight, make a fist with your hands, tense your shoulders up to your ears, tense your arms, legs, butt, stomach…every inch of your body. Hold your breath. Keep holding. Do it until you feel yourself start to shake – and when you feel like you cannot hold it anymore – DEEP EXHALE, & release. This powerful relaxation technique came from a *free* meditation on the SimpleHabit app – check it out!
Gratitude Practice: I recommend starting and ending each day with The Five Minute Journal (remember, practice on the good days will set you up to be strong on the bad days). But, on the days when I wake up doubting myself, feeling anxious, or fearful about what is to come, I take a little extra time for gratitude. Making a list of everything I am grateful for in that exact moment. Doesn’t have to be in a journal, PLEASE don’t do this on your phone – you have enough screen time in a day- rather grab a piece of scrap paper, a napkin, WHATEVER you can find & start writing. Gratitude has a powerful way of reframing your thought. Even if you feel skeptical, just try it, let your thoughts run, let the pen go, you’ll be surprised how long your list is :).
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